I Created A Life I Love

How Can Setting Healthy Boundaries Help You Create A Life You Love?

• Kristine Spindler Denton • Season 1 • Episode 11

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Fed up with being a doormat and letting others stomp all over your boundaries? Tune into this insightful episode where hosts Kristine and Janette boldly tackle how establishing clear limits is an act of self-love, not selfishness. From hilarious stories of generational cluelessness around the concept of "boundaries" to very real struggles with toxic family members, this is an unvarnished look at how communicating your needs builds healthier relationships. Whether it's saying "no" to that coworker's late-night texts or finally ending the emotional blackmail from a narcissistic parent, you'll be inspired by their refreshing mindset shifts. Gone are the days of bottling resentments - Kristine and Janette's heartwarmingly honest discussion will empower you to speak up with compassion yet firmness. Get ready to ditch the guilt and people-pleasing by prioritizing self-respect through boundaries!

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Kristine Spindler Denton:

Hello everyone, welcome to. I Created a Life I Love. Hi everyone, welcome to I Created a Life I Love. Hi everyone, it's Kristine and Janette. We are back. We are on episode 11 today, so we're hoping you guys are all having a great week. It's been a very eventful week for me, I know that, and we're talking about so today. We're sticking with this whole month. Last month was really delving into judgment and all the different types of judgment that we have in our life, and this month we're really dumping into being brave and courage, facing fears all those type of things that go with bravery and so today's focus is we're really looking at setting boundaries and how it's really an act of bravery and being courageous and self-protective and kindness, really even to yourself and to the people around you, to have clear boundaries in your relationships and friendships and all of that. So we're going to delve into that today, but before we do, let's start with our what's up. So what's up, Janette?

Janette Rodriguez:

So I've been spending a lot of time outside enjoying the good weather that we've been having in Vegas and I've been repurposing some furniture, so like fixing up some furniture that I had previously, just making it look better and so restaining it, sanding or sanding it, restaining it and just, you know, making sure it looks great. It's mostly furniture in my backyard, so I'm getting it ready so when we have more visitors in the future, if they want to come and enjoy your backyard before the summer, they can. So I'm really excited about that because I've never done this before and it's given me like a sense of like peace to when I'm outside and, you know know, giving my dog a chance to be outside and enjoy the sun, so we're both enjoying the outdoors right now that's so cool.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I love it because you guys, you won't be able to do it for very long in Vegas exactly, yeah, yeah, yeah, take advantage of the time inside. Starting at what month do you guys have to just be inside all the time?

Janette Rodriguez:

Well, we've been doing some research and it's like June to about probably August, september, yeah, yeah, so we'll see how it goes.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think it's crazy, All you people in Arizona and Vegas, Nevada, all those. But again, I grew up in Minnesota, so we were locked inside from October, end of October, November through January February, really, because of the snow as well. So I guess, which is why I'm in California. So there you have it.

Janette Rodriguez:

So what's up with you, Kristine?

Kristine Spindler Denton:

let's see. Well, so my what's up is I am healing from my surgery. Um, I'm not going to go into a ton of details us, because I'm right in the midst of all of it but spirits are good. Um, it's hard, like you know. It's. You know that continuous getting healthy I think we talked about this a little last week just the process of you know, you heal up and you start feeling yourself again and good again and your body's moving, and then I, you know, had to go under the knife again. So this is my third time around with this and we're hoping that this is the last time. So I'm waiting to hear that information. So when I do, I'll share that lovely information with everybody. But yeah, so it's just mentally, you know, getting yourself strong and knowing, okay, we're back to you know. I don't know if you want to say square one, because every time it's a little different and a different, you know, situation. But you know, back to the healing part again and so going through that and just having to be patient with your body and loving and caring and just keeping my mind busy. So it's good to be up and sitting here doing this that gives me great joy and to see your face and to be able to do this. So thank you to everybody listening. It's um, it's a great way of keeping your spirits up and my spirits up, definitely, and being able to do something like this, so that's wonderful, so, yeah, so it's just that part.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And I have my sister-in-law is here right now, which is great. My girls were here for my first two surgeries and, um, you know, and we got them back to their lives. They gave up good chunks of their lives to stop everything and their jobs and school and all of that to be here with me. So I tried to and felt that this time around I would go a different way so they didn't have to do that again. And so, but they've been, you know, continuously, you know zooming, facetiming, et cetera, and supportive. They're amazing. But my sister-in-law was wonderful, wonderful enough to come out, and then good friends that are close by are also being here and stopping by, and then, um, people sending me things and soup and food and you know, all that kind of fun stuff. So, uh, that's been, and I love food. So, like I, it's just um, that's been really wonderful. So, no complaints, but, yeah, we're back back rebuilding, um and uh, so, um, yeah, so there we are and, um, we'll get through it and so we can move on to our topic today of the the boundaries aspect.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And I said this a little bit last week, but I'll just reiterate my generation. I don't feel and again, I never want to speak for an entire generation of people, but I don't feel as Generexers we really had this whole boundary thing, you know, as something or in our vocabulary even, let alone something that we were doing and setting up in our relationships. I can definitely say I was not. I never have used the word. You know, this is my boundary and you know you're crossing over my boundary lines and all of that kind of stuff.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So I think this is something that really became popular, I don't know, about 20 years ago, right, maybe 15 years ago, I don't know. You can maybe give me a gauge better on that, Jeanette, and something that people really started saying and using a lot more in conversations and deciding to make sure that they state clearly what their boundaries are and have clear boundaries as to what they will accept. And I know there's also like hard boundaries and soft boundaries. So, um, we're going to talk about that too. So do you want to kind of take it away.

Janette Rodriguez:

Jeanette, is what your experience and Sure, and you know um I will say, growing up it wasn't really taught you know about boundaries until maybe my teenage years.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Okay, and uh 30s Right, so that would be like 15. Yeah, so like 15 years ago, right 15 to 18 years ago. That's what I was thinking.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah, and so it was more, you know, spoke about like, especially when, um, and the one thing I can think about is social media you gotta have boundaries in social media, um, and nowadays it's it's easy to do so. Um, and a lot of advices out there, you know keep, uh, work and personal life separate. Um, as far as creating that boundary and I know there's a lot of people out there that just want to friend you on social media and it's like, well, I don't know about that and creating that boundary to ensure that you keep whatever you want sacred, you know, for the people who are really close to you. And so the cool thing about social media, you can do close contacts, you know, as far as who sees your story or your post, and, you know, choose what you share. So I think, growing up, you know we had to learn the hard way about what we can or what we want to share and what we don't want to share. And then you know it's kind of evolving into the future generations.

Janette Rodriguez:

When I'm even with my nephews and nieces, I create boundaries with them, you know, and I'm ensure that they are well aware that you know I can only do so much and I am not their parents and to you know, ensure that they still respect me, but at the same time, you know being, you know, just really ensuring that they understand. You know the difference between my role, their parents' role, you know, and just helping them grow through that as well. And it's you know, it's always a learning curve for boundaries. Everybody has their own personal boundaries and there's things that you really want to ensure who you can trust as well. So it really depends on a person and what they want to share and what they don't want to share.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, I mean, I think that what I've learned from my daughters which has been fantastic, because I think they've grown up and they're both Gen Z right, and they've grown up with, you know definitely saying and teaching me and using the word. You know, this is a boundary for me and I think that's where I've learned the most is watching them create them in their lives. And I think it is a act of kindness to yourself and to the people around you to be very clear as to what your boundaries are, because I think, if that's the case, you lose a lot of resentment, you know, because I think what happens is when you don't have boundaries and someone treats you in a way that doesn't make you feel good, that doesn't make you feel safe, or you know what I mean talks to you in a certain tone or work, is taking advantage of you, calling you on your cell phone or texting you or whatever, when it's past work time or something like that, you start to feel resentful, right, and you start to feel put upon. And in the fact that when you stop it and when you say, hey, this is a boundary for me or this is not something that I feel is appropriate in our relationship and when you are clear and communicate that, then it's a matter. I think that resentment goes away because now you've said, okay, this is the boundary line, right, and so instead of you keeping it inside and resenting it, you've set the line right, you've set where it is and now if they start crossing that, then you know you have a problem right. Because I think a lot of times lines can be crossed and people can act inappropriately. I don't want to say, without knowing it, because I do adults have to be responsible for their behavior and I hate it when they're not and like I didn't even realize I was doing that to you, that bothered. That whole thing kind of bothers me, because I do think people are aware of appropriate behavior.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

But let's say it happens and let's say someone's you know talking in a tone or using a derogatory you know way of speaking in some way toward you, that you know is a problem for you and is a boundary that you need to stop. I know, like one of them for me was in conversations with somebody who I was friends with. When we would disagree on something they would get very personally attacking. The conversation could no longer stay what it was about, because they then turned it into oh well, you're just blah, blah, blah, or you're just this, and instead of keeping the personal aspect away so we could stay on topic, they didn't, and so I had to say to them look, I love having conversations with you about all the things happening out in the world and sharing ideas, sharing different points of view. I have no problem if we disagree, but I don't feel that we can do that If you're going to turn it into like a personal, you know, attack and like change the topic into that's just who I am, instead of that's my opinion on something. And and I had to, you know, explain that to them. And they really responded well, you know, they were just like oh my God, I didn't realize I was saying it that way. I didn't mean to personally come at you. I love our talks as well, like we can have a glass of wine or two and just, you know, have fun and be laughing and, you know, talk about stuff that might be difficult to talk about. I don't want to lose that. So thanks for letting me know.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And that relationship took a huge turn for the better because of that and I wasn't resentful anymore, I wasn't pulling away anymore, which is my normal reaction, would be. My normal reaction would just be like Nope, I'm out, right, and I think that is a very Gen X thing to do. We're like Nope, like we're out. And I didn't do that and in this, thanks to my daughters and their recommendation, I ran it by them and you know kind of like the boundary and wording of how I was going to say it to this person to not hurt their feelings but to be very clear about the boundary that I needed, and I would have to say it went really, really well.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

But I've also been in the situation where I've kind of told someone a boundary or something that they were doing in a work situation that was not appropriate, with texting not at work time, after work, and asking me questions and something, and and I made a comment to them about not responding, that I wouldn't be able to respond because it's after work time and I have plans this evening. And then they still that same evening, you know, texted me a question and so that was the other end of it. Is that okay? Now I have put it out there, I have made clear what my boundary was and they're choosing to ignore that, and so now we've got a different situation, like now, once I think you put a boundary out there and someone's not able to stick to that boundary, for you, if they do understand it right, that is not agree with it, but they have to at least understand it so they know, you know, what their responsibilities to it are. They weren't able to keep it and so I had to remove myself from a consulting thing I was doing with them because they couldn't you know, they couldn't abide by that, that rule.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So I think making a boundary is a clear way to me of just being able to see if someone respects you. Like that's my view on it, and I think you might have a different take on it from your generation, but for me it's just a really clear way to see if someone respects you or not. Because If they are doing, if they are doing something that to you is crossing a line, once you make them aware of that and give them the opportunity to fix it and to Change your relationship so that you feel good about it. The ones that do fantastic they're keepers right the ones that don't right, I feel like that that's going to be a hard thing to fix in that relationship If they're unable to meet those boundaries? I don't know if you can.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah, and it really does depend on the person who you're setting up the boundaries with. They could definitely follow that boundary. Like you said earlier, or they choose not to follow it, or they're struggling because they might not even understand what boundaries are. You know, and so you know, and I set up boundaries with them, and they will be like oh, you know, uh, I don't really understand this, I'm going to do it anyway. So, like in in instance, my father, you know, you know talking about my parents and my father like no, no, no, you're not going to set up boundaries with me, I don't care, you're my child father. Like no, no, no, you're not gonna set up boundaries with me.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I don't care, you're my child and that's the way it is. So, yeah, I'm glad that's my generation and that was that. Well, that's the generation I was raised with, right, like I was, like if I'm in my 50s so you know what I mean the my parents. There wasn't such a thing as boundaries whatsoever. If I would try to give my my, either of my parents, a boundary, I I don't even know that they would Well, I can't with my mom. I don't know if I've told this or shared this with everybody, but we are struggling with my mom having dementia right now. So that's another situation. But before then, telling my parents that I was giving them a boundary as their child, I would have been laughed out of the room for sure, absolutely, and not even that. I think they just there. There wasn't enough bandwidth where they were going to try and understand what the concept of a boundary was. Do you know what I mean? I think even that I don't even know if they'd laugh you out of the room as much as they're. Just, they're not going to try and learn or figure out what a boundary is. You know that generation to to give me what I need. It's like, sorry, this is this is it.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I would say, as I've said, I have a lot of respect for your generation, my daughter's, their generation, that you guys do have clear lines that you're drawing and saying this isn't going to work for me, I think, especially in the workplace.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think that's the biggest factor for me is that, you know.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

But again, being clear, when I first started out working entertainment industry, so I was given, when I first started, like a pager and very quickly no one could catch you when you were off of work, no one could call you anywhere.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

You know, like, if you, if you weren't home, then they couldn't catch you. If I left my pager at home, they couldn't find you. So we naturally had that break from work because the people weren't calling you on your home number and if they were, you were getting a busy signal because if there was a teenager in the house we were. You know what I mean, they were on the phone, like so it's just, it was just a whole thing that we just didn't have the access. So I think it really became something really important for your generations because you guys had cell phones and it was just access 24 seven that people at work could call you, could text you any of these things all the time. That's when it really got insane that people have access to you from work, from jobs that you are doing, from consulting, from anything 24 seven.

Janette Rodriguez:

And it's just been exacerbated with social media too, you know. But it's really cool because they put silence mode on, you know, and just really understanding how to navigate those different platforms. And even you know, if you have an Apple phone, they put like, do not disturb, you know, especially if you're even driving and it becomes dangerous. And you know, don't call me from this to this hours because I'm working or I'm sleeping. I know my cousin, she does a graveyard shift, so she has to do it and she can't take any calls during a certain time. And it's really important to ensure that others understand that too, because they can be texting you and calling you all day.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Well, and I'm on Slack on a couple with a couple of companies that I um am doing consulting for with curriculum and academic um programs and such, and they're most all everybody and they're much younger than me, many of them, you know, on some of these video companies and stuff that I'm working with and they all are turn turn off their notifications at a certain time, you know, and it says right on their channel, which I think is fantastic. So I think, using I think you're right, I think that's one great way to make sure that you are setting good boundaries and you don't even have to say anything to anyone, that you can clearly just turn off notifications and it says you know, so-and-so Jeanette has notifications turned off or paused, I think it says at this time, which I think is fantastic, and then there doesn't even have to be a big conversation or you know any of that, it's just done. And I think that's, I think that's really important. So I think setting boundaries and having clear communication on a situation that is making you uncomfortable or starting to bring that resentfulness up, is just such an act of kindness for yourself and for the other person in the relationship, because that means you get to keep the relationship, you get to fix it and build upon it and, like we said, if it goes the other way and the person still ignores you know what you're saying you're no worse off than you were when the boundary wasn't being met. You just now know for sure that that person is not going to respect you and you need to leave the relationship.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think it gets really hard when it gets into family, like our parents not respecting. I think there are certain generations and certain things that it's never going to happen and you have to decide then what you're going to do about it. I mean, I know, with my family, what I've had to do. I've found, when I have asked and kind of said and stated that this was a boundary not being met by a family member, they've continued to kind of ignore it. They've continued to kind of ignore it. I've set the boundary for them. So, in other words, if they, whenever they text me or write to me about a certain topic that I've said I'm not going to go into anymore, um, I just don't respond at all. So I'm keeping my own boundary and I think that's really important as well. So, whether they choose to not do it or all. It's sad to me that they won't. I'm not going to cut them out of my life, Um, but I'm still keeping that boundary.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And that boundary was this topic is not something we've talked about it, we've gone over it, we've said our piece. It can't be. You know, nothing's going to change about it, so let's move on from it. And if they keep going back there, I just completely ignore the text. I completely ignored the text. Or if they bring it up in person and we're talking, I'll move away or I'll do something. I'm not going to turn it into a fight, but I'm going to keep my own boundary, and I think that was really important for me to learn as well that you might have those people that you can't cut completely out of your life or you don't choose to cut them out of your life. It's up to you, whoever you want to cut out family or not, it's up to you to do what's best for you. But I chose to not cut this person out of my life, but I chose to keep my own boundary.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think it's hard. I mean, I think it's hard. I think, if there are certain people in your family that are really destructive towards you and do not bring Any joy into your life and are just. It's always. You know you're walking away, not okay. I think you learn what you can from them. I think everyone's put into your life for a reason. So you try and learn what the triggers are for you and why they're triggering. Do as much self-work as you can, but then I don't like this attitude that you have to keep family in your life no matter what, even if they're being destructive to you. I don't think that's a fair statement to make to anybody else.

Janette Rodriguez:

And I think for in my case I'm very fortunate to have a family that um, we can, you know, connect and have really deep conversations, not meaning that there's times that we disagree or we cross boundaries and stuff, but um, as you said before, I think the communication aspect is really key and even sometimes, like if somebody in our family creates like a boundary, um, sometimes it's actually better to talk about that boundary, because then they become more and more resentful, Um, and they don't resolve the issue at hand.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

You get what I'm saying, so like if everyone giving the boundary yeah.

Janette Rodriguez:

Like, oh, like say, for instance, I, I don't want to talk about a certain subject because it triggers me or whatnot, but sometimes, you know, um, having that conversation about that subject actually will help them grow. Or, you know, will help the person who is, you know, not necessarily the person that has the boundary, the person that doesn't have the boundary. Learn from the experience.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Dead. Right on that, I think.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah, and so some sometimes, like you know, it can be, you know, a learning moment for both parties, or one party or whoever. And that's why I think you know communication and building that trust. Trust is number one. If you don't have trust with people around you, it's you know you're not going to go anywhere with them. So building trust and understanding and compassion and communication is huge.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, I think you're exactly right. I think that's brilliant because the one person that I was talking about, that we were able to fix the situation. They did say I need to delve into this and they said, you know, they came back a couple of weeks later, um, cause they had talked to their therapist about it and their reaction was you know what I did? My dad did that to me all the time. Like they came back from doing some work and realizing that's how their dad would kind of belittle or get them to not feel that their opinions were as important and matter, because he would attack them personally. Instead of respecting the difference of an opinion and staying on topic and just debating the opinion, he went personal and, um, oh, you only think that because you know what I mean like, just I'm not going to give examples, but just went really personal at them and belittled them in a way, and that's where they got that from. And so, you're right, they were able to learn by me setting that boundary and us having that conversation. They kind of figured out where that habit even came from and didn't realize they were even really doing it Right, like, and so you're exactly right. I think both parties can learn, like, and so you're exactly right.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think both parties can learn.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

That's why I believe boundaries, if they're done right, is such an act of kindness to both people, because it strengthens the relationship, if nothing else, and you can look at why you were doing what you were doing.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

You know, and I think for me, when someone has given me a boundary like my daughters have given me, like you know, maybe a boundary on something and a topic and let me know that that's something that we're going to kind of take off the table right now and it was it was really good for me because I had to look at myself and figure out like, okay, well, why am I pushing that topic or my view on that one item in their life? Like, where is that coming from? And I think, if you do again, instead of having judgment, as we talked about all last month, about something like this, but instead of look at it as a chance to grow and a chance to be curious and don't take things like so personally that you're offended when someone gives you a boundary, but take it as a chance to grow, I think it can really strengthen a relationship and it can give you a chance to look into yourself and figure out, maybe, why, why, why you were pushing that button right or why you were triggered in that way.

Janette Rodriguez:

Whatever it is, yeah, if you're the receiver or the person who's giving it.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, yeah, it's very interesting. Well, it's a whole new world for me. I will say and I have to say that I see your generation and kids in their twenties. I know there's so much generational stuff and this generation doesn't know that I see it very differently. I see you guys as being light years ahead in relationships and your ability to communicate your feelings and your emotions and what you need in a relationship and at work, way more than I, my generation, was ever able to do or did. So I think that can only bring about, you know, good things. Moving forward is having people that are more self-aware and respectful. I think that's you know. You can't fix things if you are not aware of what you're doing. So I think that being self-aware is key.

Janette Rodriguez:

So, yeah, and you know we still have work to do. Judgment being one, we're going back to judgment. So, regardless, I think everybody can work on that.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, I'm telling you, judgment is everything, and we don't even realize how much we're doing it. But oh, I like this. This was a good conversation. I think it's all learning and I've learned a ton, so, and we'll continue to do so. So, um, let's see our source.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

This month is a book that is on. It was on the New York times um bestseller book and it is a book called boundaries. So it's a cool book. If you haven't read it, um, it's, um, when to say yes, how to say to take control of your life. I think it has some interesting ideas in it and it's by Dr Henry Cloud and Dr John Townsend, so it's an interesting book on boundaries. Maybe it'll give you some insight as to setting boundaries and doing healthy boundaries and all of that. So check that out if that's something you are into or would like to do.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

There's also some wonderful, I think, calmcom, which is one of my favorite thing. Calm has, like, lots of meditations and quiet moments and something like that. They do a thing. They have a little article too, I think, or a couple different meditations or things on boundaries as well, which I think are really good. So I like that website. They always do good things.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So share with us, email us, you guys, and tell us about boundaries. You've set boundaries that may have been set on you or for you, and you know what did they strengthen the relationship? How did it work? How are you, um, were they respected when you gave a boundary, like we'd love to know? So our email is I created a life I love at gmailcom.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So, um, please, um, please, please, please, let us know about what you guys are doing out there and know that, um, let's see what else.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Oh, that our Monday minute is out, so we have another Monday minute for you. So please, take some time this week to just, you know, play one of the one minute they're about a minute long each um videos to just take some breaths, to take some, uh, calm moment throughout your day, recenter yourself. We all start out as we've discussed our days with great intentions, right, and a plan for our day and how we want it to go on our journey to joy and creating lives we love. And it can get thrown off track by 9 am some days. Some days it might take till three, some days it happens at 8 0, 5 or 9 AM, and so, um, use it a couple of times a day, um, and just take a quiet moment for yourself. So those are our Monday minute um meditations that are on under shorts on our YouTube channel. That are under shorts on our YouTube channel. So, jeanette, what's your moment of joy for this week?

Janette Rodriguez:

So, as I was talking before, I've been outside a lot and so that gave me the opportunity to really, really focus on what's happening in my backyard. As I'm sanding furniture away, I just realized I think I have a cherry blossom tree. I think, yeah, and I was like what, a cherry blossom tree in Vegas? This?

Janette Rodriguez:

is interesting, yeah, and so it has a couple of flowers that are sprouting, and it's really small, but it's so cute, and so I think it is. Somebody can correct me if I'm wrong, but it's beautiful, so that is my moment of joy.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Nice Mine is that I'm up and around and that I'm on video right now taping looking like I'm looking like my hair's all up hasn't been washed, we're not looking our best or our strongest, and I can honestly, truly say which is not a statement I could have said in my 20s or 30s don't care, I'm just happy to be sitting up and here and being full of joy because I am so, um, you know, cancer journeys will do that to you, like you all. It makes sure and clear to make um, to let you know what's important and what's not, and so comment away to how I look and I'll never see it, and that's that's just fine, cause, um, that is my moment of joy of being up and being able to share this moment with you guys this week. So I am so happy to be here. So, yeah, it's a good moment of joy for me to have shed all of that I don't know ego, I guess, or worry or concern what anyone else thinks. So it's very freeing, is what I would say.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah, and people practice your judgment yeah.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It's a challenge, with this going on, for you not to comment, so let's see if you can do it. Here is me bringing you challenges. There you go, okay. So next week we're going to um, we're staying on our topic of bravery, we're keeping with it throughout the month of April and we're looking at overcoming fear of failure and building that resistance, and this is one of my favorite topics.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So I do love this one because I think a lot of people have fear of failure. I do not, um, and I think it's. It's something that well, I guess I don't now put it that way, I don't think it's always been the case, but I think it's a good place that we can start talking about, because a lot of people legitimately do, and it's very understandable, and I think we can bond together and work on this together. So I think that'll be fun next week because I can give you a lot of stories that are extremely hysterical, where I have fallen literally I will tell you this on my face in front of huge stars and actors and stuff and mess things up. So I got failures left and right I can share. So, yeah, that'll be good.

Janette Rodriguez:

I'm excited for that.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So head on over to Etsy? Um, I created a life I love. If you want to buy any of our merch? Um, you can head to our website. Our latest blog is out as well, so go ahead and do that Um. On our website, you can? Um join our community. You can? Um email us and you can definitely get into all of our blog postings. We do do one every week, as we do with our podcast, and they're really good. We put down and writing a lot of the ideas and steps that you can take in. You know that are connected with whatever we're talking about, whatever our topic is, so you don't have to like try and pause this and rewind and you know whatever and um some good advice, some good tips in there. So, um? Um, read our blog if you are so inclined, and I think that's it, and we'll see you guys next week. Bye everybody, go out there and create a life you love. Have a good week, guys.