I Created A Life I Love

How Can Silencing that Inner Critic Catapult You To Create A Life You Love?

• Kristine Spindler Denton

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Embarking on the path to self-acceptance isn't a straightforward journey—it's filled with self-doubt, negative self-talk, and the quest for personal growth. Throughout our conversation, we confront the all-too-common impostor syndrome, discussing how it can drain us of joy and erode our sense of self-worth. But it's through this very discussion that we illuminate the power of embracing our emotions, as Kristine and Janette exemplify the strength found in vulnerability. We delve into the transformative nature of a growth mindset, laying bare the truth that our imperfections are not inadequacies, but simply parts of our evolving narrative.

Training our minds to embrace positivity can sometimes feel like an uphill battle, yet it's in this struggle where profound growth can occur. In this episode, we examine the notion that our thoughts are not the essence of who we are, and that by actively reshaping our mental landscape with positive affirmations, we can cultivate a healthier state of being. We also address the complex journey of body acceptance through life's changes—from aging to grappling with health challenges like cancer—pointing to the courage that comes with loving oneself in every season of life. Join us, as we weave through these topics, offering insights and compassion to empower you on your own quest for resilience and self-acceptance.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Hi everyone, welcome to. I Created a Life I Love. This is Kristine Spindler Denton with Janette Rodriguez. We are here, welcome, welcome. We are so glad to have you guys with us. It's been a hot minute for us, so this is going to be fun because we have a lot of catching up to do, so it'll be very, very exciting to be here. We're going to jump right in with our woods up. So, Janette, you want to?

Janette Rodriguez:

go first. Sure, yeah, so I am exploring my city and Las Vegas, nevada. As I mentioned before that, I have recently moved to Las Vegas and I'm just going on explorations. I have been taking a lot of time to explore my city and I've been exploring my city without any destination. So it's been really rewarding because I don't know much outside of the strip and just seeing, even like seeing the perspective of my town from a different point of view point, and it's been amazing and it's so cool. I mean I would have no idea.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Well, I guess I could say this much that we were in Vegas my god, that's a story my oldest daughter for her softball she's a softball pitcher and she actually, you know, was recruited and went to college pitching and so on one of her travel ball teams.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

We were in Vegas and we were in Las Vegas and we were on a tour of the softball teams.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

We were in Vegas for a tournament and it was so hot, it was so scary because like they didn't even start until I mean, they tried to do early morning, right, and then you take a break in that midday and then they'd come back even in the evening and they did all the stuff to keep the girls, but it didn't matter, it was still so hot I mean, it's Vegas and it was still so hot she ended up like having to pitch. She pitched extreme heat all the time. But I just remember she pitched amazing we were and she had to pitch multiple games because the other pitcher on our team, I think, was injured at that time or couldn't come to the tournament I don't even remember, but so she was kind of on her own. I think there was one other pitcher but she was pitching most of it and she did amazing. So I said we're going to put you in extreme, extreme heat all the time. But other than that, I have never been in Vegas other than the strip.

Janette Rodriguez:

Oh yeah, yeah, same Before I moved here. Yeah, it's like and understanding all the different suburbs that are around. So there's Henderson, there's Summerland, there's the north, there's the you know east side. There's just so many different areas all over Vegas, so it's been rewarding that's so cool.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Now. Are you doing that with your husband, or are you going off on your own?

Janette Rodriguez:

Well, he's working, so I've been taking after I finish helping him or doing you know, things around the house. I go and I take off by myself and it's really nice, put on some good music or even a podcast and drive around. Yeah that's so great.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

No, that's wonderful. I really love exploring new cities. I don't think I've moved here because it was a city I kind of knew and so when I moved I only moved, you know, 15, 20 minutes away from my other house, right? So I don't feel that I really took the time to get to know the city, and I think it's really fun and interesting to do that. I think people don't do that enough in my opinion, or maybe it's just me, maybe all of you, all of you out there exploring your cities. I did not, and so my girlfriend and I are actually going on a walk or a hike or something one time a month, and then we go to a different breakfast spot, so we're doing that one.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Sunday a month and finding cool, fun, different breakfast spots in the city where I've moved to, so that's really fun.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, I think that's fantastic and it's really fun. The other aspect that I love about this project is that I'm really I did it when I traveled in Europe of going and having no problem, like when you travel alone. I traveled with my daughter for part of a trip and then we split and then I was alone for about six days and you have no problem when you're in another country or traveling or going like that, to go out to a restaurant on your own or to go out to a coffee place on your own Because there's no one else there with you, right? Yeah, you travel all alone, so it's not. It doesn't feel weird to go do that, but it is funny how then you get home and then you feel weird. So I have been also pushing myself at least one time a month to go out and go to a coffee shop or a restaurant or something along those lines completely on my own, some activity completely on my own, and go do that as well. Oh, I love that.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, and I think you really get to you. People watch, right? You yeah, for me I'm writing. It forces me to write, because if I do start feeling awkward that everyone is talking to the people they're with and I'm just sitting there alone like you don't want to just sit and stare at people, right, so you actually write. So I've been getting a ton of writing done. But also when I do take a break or get up and get another cup of coffee or you know whatever, I just really really enjoy people watching and just looking at the place that I'm in, and you know it just really gives you a chance to enjoy your environment. So I'm so proud of you. I think that's wonderful to get to know your city, yeah, very.

Janette Rodriguez:

How about you? What's up with you?

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Well, this was a hard week. This was our week that you and I talked about this a little bit, but we did lose shadow. So shadow is our elderly, my elderly puppy. I will share the story that some. I never go to Petco. We have always gotten our food from another source or delivered or something, but we were really short one day. The kids it was just a crazy situation.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

As a single parent, I was dealing with two different schedules over the weekend of who was getting to what game and what event or what play, and I was stressed out. I forgot about dog food and so I had to run down like early on the Saturday morning. So I got there early, before they opened and I was waiting for them to open so I could just run in, get some food and, you know, get back home and, as I did, a mom and her daughter were coming up and they brought the dog in and they were, you know, giving the dog away and the girl was really, really sad, you could tell, and the mom looked very stressed out. And there's no judgment here at all. I did learn a little bit of their story and it was a very sad situation for everyone involved. There was no one being cruel, you know what I mean, or an unkind. And so I saw them bring the dog in the store and they were kind of asking if someone could help them. And you know, maybe the Petco wasn't the best choice of where they should go, but they're, you know, again no judgment, because they were in a very bad situation and I'm leaving pretty quickly, anyway. So I just said, here I'll take him, you know, I will take him.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

We had at that point two other dogs but I was just like there's no, you know, there's no way I'm not leaving here with that dog and maybe I'll find someone to take him and foster him for a while. Well, of course he became a part of our family forever and so he stayed with us and he was our little old man. He was just such a quiet, like just he was always really cute when he ever got excited and started kind of howling. He was like a pit lab mix on the smaller side and but he was such a calm, just did his own thing, wanted to be loved, like was very, very loving, but just this calm, gentle dog, and so it was always so cute when you would get riled up and get all excited and kind of start prancing around and, you know, howling and stuff, because he didn't do it very often. So it was very, very cute. But yeah, we had him in the old house for years and years and then now since I've moved, you know it's been about three years that he was here, so it happened pretty quickly.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

The good news was that, even with all my and the sad thing is is going through the cancer surgeries which so, on that note, I am still home healing from my cancer surgeries Getting stronger every day, have had a couple of setbacks, but surgery we're still recovering from surgery number two and he was just always there like he would come up on my bed and be by my side, and he's just been very steadfast love coming from him getting through these surgeries and while I've been home. So the timing of it happening right now it's really, really hard. The house seems extremely empty at the moment, even though I have a hundred and seventy pound crazy one still roaming around behind me. But yeah, it's really really hard. Lots of tears, lots of crying, but the day he died I've put down so many dogs at this point because we would foster elderly dogs for years and years that well, I would, and, and dogs who were sick and stuff, just to give them the best kind of transition I could and the best end of their days that I could give them.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And gosh, is it weird in the fact that I really believe they know and they just know, and Something got me to go that day to the park and I haven't been taking them. We're doing a lot of little things in my backyard and being there, but I just haven't some days. I'm just not strong enough and able to do that. But that day I was like I'm gonna drive to this little park where there aren't, because my other dog, the one I still have, I'm Zito is very reactive so I have to be very careful about where I am, especially in the physical state that I'm in, and this shadow got along with everyone.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

But I chose a park and said you know, we're gonna go there today because it's, you know, no one ever goes there. It's a great little spot. It's kind of like a secret spot. It's not that Pretty or amazing or anything, so a lot of people don't bring their dogs there, but it's a great kind of open area and I have to still keep them on their leash, but I hadn't gone there.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I can't even tell you the last time, but whatever it was inside me was just like we're gonna go there and we go, and then I have pictures of him and that's the picture that we'll use. We'll talk about that later. But if him the whole ride home he put, you know just, he just had his nose up to the sun at the park the whole time and then the whole ride home. He usually would not stick his head out the window and do that and he just had his head out the window the whole ride home. Didn't want to get out in the car at the very end and the ad. Then, two days later after that is when he was he stopped eating and you know was.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Right after that and then it was about two, three days after that day that we put him down. So, yeah, so that was our, that's our sad moment. But I know he's with, he's got a whole tribe with him. I'll tell you that we've got so many of our puppies up Up in our, in a med dog heaven, as I call it, so there's a whole gang of dogs out there. They got a pack. So that's a good news. So there you go. But you just, you know it's been really fun remembering all the good stuff and talking to my daughters and stuff on the phone because they couldn't, you know, come back, but about all the fun little memories and looking back at some pictures and them cuddling with him and all of that. So you remember all the good stuff. So, and he definitely got me through that first surgery of cancer and through recovery of the first couple of days of the second one. So I wouldn't have made it through without him. So it was, he was my angel. So that's very good.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, he continues to be yeah, no, yep, exactly, exactly, Alrighty. Well, moving on and kind of switching topics before, so none of us Start crying here, we'll go to our topic of the day, and what we're talking about this month with I which I think is gonna be really really fun is judgment, and I think there's so many different ways of looking at judgment and different types of judgment and I don't think we realize how much we judge things and we're not talking about like let's put shame on everyone and feeling bad and don't judge and the normal don't judge other people. We'll talk about that too, but in a very different way. But what we're really trying to do and talk to you about is that any time that you have any judgment on anything, that it's good or bad, you're immediately taking away your power and you're taking away your ability to be objective and look at the situation and accept a Situation. And I believe and that's gonna jump in with her thoughts, with her agree or disagree it's all about acceptance when you are on this planet.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think it's about accepting others. I think it's about accepting situations when they happen to you, because If you're fighting, wishing for things to be different, wishing for people to be different, wishing for this not to have happened or that not to have happened. If you spend all your time in that place, you are in no way being grateful or joyful and enjoying what you have in front of you. You can't do both and feel both at the same time. So today we're talking about how important all of that is in relation to yourself.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yes yeah, how you have to really really accept yourself, with all the faults, with all the good, with all the bad, and Be able to see all of that in yourself, not fake, not you know. Oh, I have to be fake positive or I have to be, you know, always up and Bubbly and whatever. If you're feeling low, take a moment and let that feeling happen. What you find when you do that is that feeling will go away when you give it.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It's moment, when you take a moment and stop and feel sad and feel that sadness, like when I was dealing with this loss of shadow, for example. I just stopped and let myself really feel the moment and cry it out and what immediately comes or I shouldn't say immediate, but pretty quickly came was just love. Like then you just start feeling all the love and that comes with the sadness that he's not Physically here anymore, but that love is all still there. And so I think you need to Allow everything to be within yourself and whatever emotions you need to go through, whatever growth you need to go through, you need to accept it and the fighting against it and the Wishing things were different about yourself. Wishing this body part was different, wishing from that the way you talk is different, just wishing any part of yourself is different. It takes away all. It's just it. It just kills you. It really does, because it just takes away all of your power, all of your ability to Bring yourself joy.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah, no, and we, you know the same goes is you are your big, biggest critic, and that is very, very true. Just mentioning how my previous position I was always constantly thinking I was in imposter and I had the imposter syndrome and Always thinking it wasn't good enough, or you know, why am I in the position? I wasn't, and always, you know, kind of in that negative mindset in my you know frame and and I Would always have to like, okay, if I'm such a good preacher of saying growth mindset, I need to use it for myself too. It's like kind of like practice what you preach, because it's it's really you could say all these different things, but actually implementing them you're for yourself. That's where the word real work comes in, you know, and you, you definitely have to, you know, remember that you're growing, you're learning, you're going to make mistakes, things are not going to be perfect and you know, like with situations that are bad or sad, like you said, you where they're all learning experiences, but it's hard, it's hard when you're in the moment too, you know.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Oh, I agree, but I think too, we forget. And so, as educators, right now, jeanette and I'm gonna jump on that horse for just a second here, because and Jeanette's gonna know what I speak of is that one of the biggest things that we teach to our kids is that failure is a step, is a step, it's part of Success. Yes, no one does anything, or very rarely, let's say just very rarely, very rarely. Are you gonna pick up a new skill, like writing, like podcasts, like biking you know what I mean? Like I don't know. Like tennis, like golf, like Whatever you're doing? Anything you're doing new, are you gonna pick it up and be great at it and we tell us to our kids all the time it takes? But practice, right, it takes practice.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It takes work to get good at something, to play the piano, to I mean to draw, to paint, anything that you're doing. It doesn't mean you're not an artist. It doesn't mean you're not creative because the first thing that you write sucks. It doesn't mean that you're not a fantastic artist because your first ten paintings aren't you know Picasso. That's not how humans learn. That's not how we work.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

We fail at things. We fail, and the point is, is that judging yourself and being that critic like, oh, you're just a failure because you failed. I Mean we don't allow our kids to that. At least as teachers, as educators, we would never allow. When a child was learning math or learning to write a you know full paragraph or whatever, we're teaching them or doing a science experiment or whatever, and it doesn't go right. The first thing that we're saying to them as teachers and as educators is that's okay, let's figure out what your mistake was, let's look at what you have and then let's figure out how we can then make it into a success. How do we change, fix whatever went wrong and then set yourself up for success for the next time? How are we gonna do it different when we try again?

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, and there's never like. You're just done the first time. And yet I think we get to being adults and If we're, if we're not good at like whatever that voice in their head has said to oh I'm not good at this or I can't do that we don't challenge that voice and that's the problem. That voice is not you, that voice is not your soul, that voice is not your spirit. That voice that says you suck at this or you're no good at that, that's not you, that's not the entity that came into your body and is living here and you can challenge it at any time, at any time.

Janette Rodriguez:

Mm-hmm, mm-hmm. Yeah, I See it a little bit as it is a part of me, but it's a part that I want to Make better or, to, you know, transform and because I think you know it's it's self-talk, right, it's that self-talk and how I can change that self-talk to Be more motivating for myself. But you know, at the same time it's like okay, it's all kind of a mental game because, like, sometimes I'll start off in the negative. Where I'm talking, you know like, oh, I don't think I could do this, I can't. You know X, y and Z, and I'll give you a situation like Hiking, because I've, I've been doing that.

Janette Rodriguez:

So hiking as far as going up really big boulders or climbing that, and then I have no problem going up the boulders, coming back down is where I get really freaked out. My hands start getting clammy and I'm like, oh, no, I'm gonna fall, because I have fallen multiple times. And so when I'm coming down, it's just like oh, I just imagine myself falling and I'm like okay, so that portion kind of prepares me, like, okay, what do you do not to fall? So it is a part of me. You know, like the negativity and stuff, and so I'm like, okay, well, the way you step down, you know like you gotta do like side steps or you gotta do X, y and Z. So yeah, I think it's both like that. It's okay to have that negative side, but then just remember that you you know to transform it to something different.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Well, what I would say? Okay, so this is where, well, we're gonna, well, I'm gonna jump. I'll jump into it now, so I'm gonna make it part of our topic date. But our monthly resource for this month is going to be Michael Singer and it's the Untethered Soul. Okay, so that's the book, and we have a couple, and I probably will bring up another book in two weeks too, cause I've just been, I've been diving in deep people, I'm home and like getting better, and so there's so many amazing teachers out there that are incredible, and again, we share this with all of you so that you can pick and choose which works for you, like what author you like, what really speaks to you. There's so many different great leaders out there and just spiritual guides and just people motivating people, and everyone finds the one that kind of works for them. Right, like that's what you do, just like you pick out things you like, things that you don't.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And so Michael Singer's book, the Untethered Soul, and then he has like a follow-up, like companion type of thing, but what he that's, that's a book you gotta read, all about the mind, because what it's really talking about is that your mind is separate. Your mind is something that is trained by your soul, your spirit, as much as like, you train your hand, as much as you train anything else. It doesn't mean that those words are coming from you and you can trick your mind, and so you have to understand that that mind can't be you. If you can trick that mind by yourself, from yourself, that means that there's a separation there. Do you know what I'm saying? That there's a separation from the actual brain, part of your mind. Right, if you think of the color blue, blue, blue before you walk out the door, you're gonna pick up on everything blue and you're gonna do that.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

That doesn't mean that you are telling your brain like that's not your, that's just because their brain is a tool.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Right, it's just a tool, just like anything else. So your great advice on the if your mind starts giving you the negative, at least make sure you counteract it with the positive is exactly right, because you train your mind, you decide, and the more that you keep saying the negative, the more that your brain is gonna go oh, this is what she wants me to do. You know what I mean? That you don't even think about it. It just becomes what your brain starts thinking of when it gets up in the morning, just like if you say blue, blue, blue, it's just, it wants me to see blue, she wants me to see blue, I'm gonna go find blue. She's talking negative, I'm gonna give her more negative. She's telling me that your brain is actually trained for exactly whatever you train it to do. So your point, I think, is a beautiful one, which is when your mind starts doing that and doing those negative, negative, negative, make sure you counter them with okay, but what if this, this and this happens instead?

Janette Rodriguez:

You know, yeah, yeah, yeah, the brain is an amazing thing.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It is. It's just the book Untethered Soul is really interesting how it goes into training your mind and use your mind did not. When your mind starts rethinking the same thought over and over again about a fight you had and making you know going. Oh my God, why did I say that, why did I do that? And again getting all negative and being that critic on yourself, how you have to all right, all right, that's fine, like and then go.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

But what if you know what I mean? But what if I can use that now moving forward to make us closer? Like what if I can call that friend and something really positive and great could come from this. Like what? Make sure you try and flip all the situations out. It's not a oh my God, it's the end of the world, the relationship's over factor, but it also could flip in a positive factor and so giving the positive as much time in your brain, like you were saying, as the negative, I just think that's brilliant. I think that's really really good and how you worded it I thought was that great. Make sure you see the other side.

Janette Rodriguez:

Oh, yeah, yeah, and that fear. I'm telling you, the older you get, the more fears you get. I don't, you know, I was so fearless I'm not I skydived, you know, like I did everything. You know crazy out there, and now I can barely go down a boulder. I'm like what's going on, Like my palms are like sweating and I'm just, yeah, it's crazy, it's crazy.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, and I think it's again facing those fears like fighting it right, because your brain will tell you. You know what I mean. Again, it's combating that right.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yeah.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It's hard, it is not easy. I agree with you. I think I think parts of me because I'm much older than you have gotten much more accepting, like I think I accept my body now much more than I did when I was younger. I was so critical of myself and my body and weight and all of that, and just I wasn't, you know, pretty enough or good looking enough and just how I looked in general, like it was always a struggle. And now I'm having to start all over again with this new body I'm gonna have. Like it's funny, because I kind of feel like I finally got to the point in my 50s where I did accept my body as it was. It wasn't perfect but it was fine and I was very grateful to still be here and working out and you know what I mean and able to do the physical things and travel that I wanted to do. That the little imperfections of the extra five or 10 pounds, like I just I was laughing at them Cause I'm like it doesn't matter, it just doesn't matter and I was in such a better place with my body right before it was diagnosed with cancer and so now I'm gonna be again, I think you know, but again, I think that's the timing and that's the not judging and it's just the acceptance of okay. This means I get to see if that's really true, right, I get to see if I've come all the way of really accepting my body in whatever states it is in, and loving my body for exactly what it is and exactly how it looks scars and all you know, not misshapen from so many surgeries and all of that. And I think that that's gonna be. Instead of being sad about that or negative about that again and not accepting it and wishing it were different, I'm not judging it and I'm just saying, okay, I accept that it's. My body is gonna now go through a huge, huge change and I'm gonna find the positives in it. You know, I'm gonna definitely mourn the loss of parts that have been taken away, just like losing a limb.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I think when you lose parts of your body, you know it's just. You have to go through that mourning period and that change of how your body was and how it's going to be and allow yourself to feel whatever. That is the way that you do it. But then I think you have to see the other side of it too, which is the acceptance and what if? What if I fit better into this, or what if I'm ever to wear these kind of clothes now instead of that kind of clothes, and that might be fun. And I'll you know I'm gonna have a different, completely different perspective on, because my body's gonna be very different of what I might like in clothing, and it could be a fun adventure. And I think, again, it's just about not judging, it's just about acceptance, and once you accept it, I think you're able to see the good you know, or the possibilities, let's say, as you had. You know, you were saying like, just look at the other side. I think you're able to see the possibility. Yeah, yeah, yeah.

Janette Rodriguez:

I love it.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yeah, so we'll see, but hopefully our challenge for you this week is that you will try and stop that critic in your head from being overwhelming. Separate who you are from just the brain just spewing words. Challenge what those words are. Accept right, accept yourself, let yourself fail, do things where you fail and that's okay, and put you know. Don't put yourself in situations that you might fail in because you're scared. Go and try them and accept yourself and love yourself through failures and you'll probably have a lot more fun is what I would say. Failing, messing things up sometimes and failing things sometimes have been some of the most hysterical moments in my life. I will tell you that, and nothing under the and it wasn't the end of the world. It wasn't the end of the world whatsoever. So accept yourself this week, people, as much as you can.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

And then we already mentioned our monthly resource is the Michael Singer book, the Untethered Soul, and I don't remember I don't have it right here, but there is a book that goes with it like Living Untethered, I think is the name of it. But he has a very unique insight. He quotes a lot of scripture. He quotes a lot of Buddhist teachings what else? There's a number of different teachers that he quotes and uses and works from which I love. So try that out. I think it's a great book. He also has a podcast, so he hasn't recorded a new one in quite a while, but the old ones are really interesting and good. You think you kind of have to read the book to really get the whole idea of what he's talking about before you listen to those, but you do. You Do whatever order you want. So how about our moment of joy? What's your moment of joy this week, jeanette?

Janette Rodriguez:

So, as. I was mentioning. You know, as far as going out into nature and seeing what's around me and exploring. I have a picture of the Red Rock Canyon and it's just gorgeous. It's gorgeous. There's snow all over the Red Rock. It's just, you know, the contrasting of the red and the white and speckles of green. It's just beautiful. And you know you wouldn't expect snow in the surrounding areas of Vegas, but it gets really cold and then it does and it's gorgeous.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

That's a good. No, I wouldn't. I did not think of snow in Vegas, but yeah.

Janette Rodriguez:

How about you, Christine? What is?

Kristine Spindler Denton:

your moment of joy. I'm going to put up my picture of shadow. So we'll pick up the picture of shadow. I did snap a picture which again was rare and weird for me that when we stopped or as we were driving and stopped at a light, I turned real quick and snapped a picture of him just with his head in the sun, out the window, our shadow, and so that was his last car ride home. So that's my moment of joy. So please make sure everyone else please share a moment of joy that you have had this week or this month. It doesn't have to be any specific type of picture. You know Jeanette has found landscape and I'm looking at an animal one. So you know it's all different. Whatever brings you joy this week, just take a picture of it and help remind you. Hopefully put it up on your screen somewhere so you can be reminded of some joy that you do have in your life, to bring you more joy. But you can always email your pictures and your moment of joy to iCreatedAlifeIloveatgmailcom.

Janette Rodriguez:

Yes, please do so.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Yay, yeah. And then our Monday minute. That one's for me. We're going to get some Monday minutes from Jeanette too, but this one I was down at the ocean, so I felt good enough and felt like I needed to get out one day after shadow had died, and I was sad and I just felt, like you know, I needed a bigger scope and a bigger picture and you just, you know, to make yourself feel a part of all of it. And the ocean always does that for me and gives me more of a sense of you know, we're never really gone and all of our energy is still here.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

So there's an ocean minute, remember. We just do a little cute saying that might be motivational words for you and we put it over some great nature moment with. So you get the sound of the waves on the one and we release that every Monday. So use it throughout your day to reground yourself, to get yourself refocused on you and what your intention for the day is. Remember, we all start out kind of with a great intention of how we want to have a joyful day, and that can get sidetracked by other people, by situations, and it's always a good idea to just stop and take a moment here or there throughout your day to take a breath or two and refocus and make sure that remember it's your day, this is your life and make sure you're bringing yourself joy.

Janette Rodriguez:

Loving it, loving it, and also, what do we have for next week?

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Let's see our topic.

Janette Rodriguez:

I know you like this one.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Oh, my goodness, this is. You guys are going to have to bear with me. You're going to have to bear with me. This is also embracing non-judgements of others, but specifically we're going to kind of focus on social media and if you want to hear my rant, come on back. Is what I'm saying.

Janette Rodriguez:

It's a good one.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

It's a good one. Yeah, I think Jeanette has heard it, and I have a whole plan to fix the world. So if you want to come back and hear what that is like, yes, please come back and you're here. How we are going to talk about how do you bring non-judgment into social media and in your daily life, when you know we all use social media. So that'll be very, very interesting. All right, we do also have a new blog up, so go to our website.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

I created a life I lovecom. Obviously, our podcast can be heard on Spotify and YouTube or on YouTube, and all of our Monday minutes that we are just mentioning. The last one is of an ocean and waves crashing, so it's really pretty relaxing sound. They are all up as shorts on YouTube as well and all of our social media. Everything is that I created a life I love, so find us on all of those various factors. If you also want to get any of our t-shirts or I was going to have my I created a life I love coffee mug here, and I forgot it this morning, but I will bring it next one but you can also look at all of those. Those are all up on Etsy.

Janette Rodriguez:

All right, Thank you everyone. Bye.

Kristine Spindler Denton:

Have a great day everybody.